We’ve all been there. A bad day. A bad week. A bad month. When life feels hard, you feel discouraged, stressed, disconnected.
You know in your heart and mind the truth – the real truth. That you are worthy. That you are good enough. That you are deserving. That there is an inner purpose to your life, whether it has yet been discovered or not – it is there.
And yet when we have times of frustration, stress, anger, depression, despair, it is often hard to change tracks and suddenly start feeling good.
Tony Robbins makes a point to say, “How quickly can you change your state? In an instant.” This is because he has learned that physiology can play an immensely important role in helping you to quickly change your mental or emotional state from negative to positive.
And we all ultimately want to live in beautiful states.
States of helpfulness, gratitude, appreciation, love, enjoyment, fun, anticipation, excitement and inspiration.
I’ve gathered some of the most helpful ways I’ve found to shift your state. These will help you to re-connect, re-surface and renew your spirit.
Here are 5 Things To Do When Life Feels Hard
1. Get Physical. Getting your body, your physical state in motion, is a key way to change your state. As much as you may not feel you want to do it, you are almost 100% guaranteed to feel an increased sense of well-being after a walk, run, yoga class, cycling, hiking, weight-lifting or what-have-you exercise session. Even better if you can get outside.
2. Count your blessings. Simple as it sounds, yes, gratitude can switch your mental state to that of positivity. When life feels hard, remember all you have to appreciate. As Denzel Washington once stated, “I hope when you go to bed at night that you put your shoes way up under your bed so that when you get up in the morning you have to get down on your knees.”
He went on to say that in truth, you could spend an entire day just going through the list of things to be thankful for. When life feels hard, start counting. Or in the lyrics of Bing Crosby….”If you’re worried, and you can’t sleep, Just count your blessings instead of sheep. And you’ll fall asleep counting your blessings.”
3. Sleep. Going to sleep is not just about resting the body. It is a way of hitting the reset button. Abraham Hicks talks about this. When life feels hard we are clued in to the insistent need for a nap. Sleep allows us to take a break from the discordant vibrations we were feeling/emitting.
It allows us to reconnect with Source. It rests our spirit, mind and body. How many times have you felt better after a good night’s sleep?
4. Phone a friend. Just tonight I was feeling discouraged. Several things from the day had not lined up the way I’d hoped and I’d found myself feeling down. Losing sight of going forth in love. Losing sight of my purpose. Knowing in my heart of hearts it was temporary, but still feeling every ounce of trudging uphill when I wished it was easy.
Simple texts with a close friend started me back on the path of knowing the truth – that everything was really ok. Complete acceptance from someone who knows you so well.
Whether the conversation is about the problem at hand or whether you get off the topic and just enjoy an uplifting talk. Friends are astoundingly valuable.
5. Help someone. This is a big one for me that I’ve really taken to heart even more so lately after hearing Gabrielle Bernstein say this, “When you are feeling helpless, help someone.” I have to tell you it is one of the most powerful ways to get out of your own way and start to generate some good energy.
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