How do you choose to respond? As they say, we can’t always choose what happens, but we can choose how we respond.
What do you do when someone misjudges you? How do you deal with judgment? How do you respond?
I find layers of reactivity before coming to a place of peace. It goes something like this.
The reactive mind feels attached. Ego defends itself. You feel hostility, anger. You may even feel this throughout your entire body. You want to respond. Reply to that email. Be understood. Be RIGHT and let them know they are WRONG.
Just wait. Give yourself space.
Then the next layer is often just below anger. It may be frustration, irritation, resentment.
Just wait. Give it space.
Do what works for you. Get physical space. Go for a walk. Meditate. Pray. Journal. Talk to someone – careful here – a little venting is good – but don’t go down the gossip/complaint/talking about others path. 😉 You know the difference.
Bit by bit, calm will begin to settle in.
Eventually, you can see more perspectives. You may even see that you were not 100% right. Maybe you misread something. Maybe the person who “offended” you had a hard day, a hard life. Who knows. Why guess? Begin to let it go.
Final stages are acceptance followed by, the ultimate -> gratitude
Can you even begin to see how this experience has ultimately enhanced your life? Feel gratitude fully. Send them love. Send yourself love. Watch this video: